When the well mannered modern mother first "joined" facebook she might have been mystified by those people from her past or present clamoring to be her "friend." Some of those people she may barely remember or, in truth, barely know now. Someone more facebook savvy than she might have needed to explain to her that in facebook world "friend" means: anyone I have ever know/anyone who knows someone I know/anyone I would like to know/as well as the traditional definition of friend. In some cases she might even conjecture that some facebook users are following the old adage "keep your friends close and your enemies closer."
She might have also been surprised by the
blatant disregard for the feeling of others that is often exhibited on
facebook - one assumes in the haste to share one's fabulosity with the
larger world rather than out of pure malice. For example, she might be
made uncomfortable watching one old college chum post countless photos
and vignettes about her wonderful visit to city X only to read the
cheery but obviously hurt comment from another old college chum who
lives in city X say "looks like fun, hope you will call next time you
are in town..." Or she may have watched another scenario play out where
"friend" A has declined an invitation from "friend" B with an
artificial excuse only to then go and post photos of the party she
herself threw that same evening to which (sadly) "friend" B was not
invited. The examples of such thoughtlessness, as you know dear
reader, are infinite.
Now of course the well mannered modern mother
can not include everyone in her rolodex all the time nor should she
try. But she should know the difference in her own life between a
facebook friend and a real friend and try to take the feeling of those
people into account when possible. And who know, maybe, if people spent
just a few more minutes thinking before posting the social network
would be a slightly more civil place.